We are accustomed to accepting differences as something disturbing, but in fact differences can enrich us, and expand our point of view. It’s a good thing that parents do not think the same way. In this way children can experience two points of view on the world and life, and then form their own, third point of view. Nevertheless, parents need to agree on the basic principles, priorities and boundaries of the child’s education.

Unanimity among parents on important issues is only achievable through well-meaning conversations and discussion. Accusations and heated arguments will not reduce the differences, but deepen them.

When we argue heatedly on a subject, we often activate our ego in the attempt to prove our own point of view, that we close our minds.  Negative emotions such as anger, indignation and fear block the ability of our mind to think deeply.

Above all, we need to accept the fact that the differences between us will never completely disappear. Everyone has the right to disagree, but that does not mean that no common rules can be reached. The main criterion should be what is better for the child in the long run. Consultation with a specialist can greatly help parents harmonise their points of view.

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